Another week, another label for Meghan Markle’s dismemberment and reclaim archetype podcast. After her inaugural episode with Serena Williams on Ambition and her second installment with Mariah Carey on Diva-Dome, this week’s guest is Mindy Kaling, and has the label “spinster” in hand—single woman, old maid, singleton. A label that Kaling shamelessly identifies as a single mother of two children in her 40s who has never been married and now faces societal pressure to change her marital status to qualify as “normal”. do not feel. Kalinga not only identifies with the label, but is retrieving it with piercing intent.
Don’t be fooled by her ability to throw traditional marriage and family ideals out the window, though — Kaling herself admitted that she hasn’t always felt so free. Coming from a nuclear family, Kaling recalls writing about her future as a little girl in her journal. She shared her childhood dreams with Markle: “‘I’m going to marry a guy named Josh and we’re going to have five kids and I [will] When I turn 24, start having kids.’ very nice. But 24 came and went. No passion, no marriage, no kids.” Although she dated in her 20s, her role quickly consumed her life The OfficeAnd her desire to grow her career (as well as her lack of a compatible partner) outweighed the societal pressure she felt to settle down and have children in order to adhere to the status quo.
“Most people, especially women, I think are willing to compromise,” Kaling said. [avoid being labeled a spinster], I feel so afraid of being single. She continued, “My life is full of women who are [in their] late 30s, early 40s, who are so successful, and they have peers who are notAnd I’m often amazed… I’m sitting there like, ‘I don’t know what you’re looking for in this guy…’ I think a lot of women are probably, sadly, rather that Will be with the person who is not right for them instead of being alone. ,
Markle and Kaling pivot to talking about the ambition of single motherhood, and how women can display the same qualities as men, but men are viewed much more positively for their directness, decisiveness, and leadership, while “In women, those qualities are so unattractive to some,” Markle says. Markle shared the double standard setting aside, “When I started dating my husband, and we got engaged, everyone was like, ‘Oh my god, you’re so lucky. he chose you, After hearing it a million times at a certain point, you’re like, ‘I chose him too.‘ Thankfully I have a partner who was countering that narrative for me and going, ‘They’ve done it all wrong. I’m lucky because you chose me, ‘But it’s gender. And it’s an archetype and the stereotype that ‘You’re so lucky.’ And it just feeds into the idea that you’re waiting for someone to tell you that you’re good enough, as opposed to knowing that you’re good enough on your own. ,
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And that’s all: Kaling and Markle know they’re good enough on their own, and that scares people who aren’t so comfortable with themselves.
Kalinga and Markle are two exemplary examples of modern woman. Independent, capable, successful, to build a career for herself so that after marrying and becoming a mother, even in Markle’s case, no man has to be trusted. Two women who advocate for women to do whatever they can at whatever time they set their mind to. Women who, again like Markle, can get married and divorced and live a meaningful life after a failed marriage. Women who don’t like Kalinga can do A family without a man, but actively chooses to bring children into the world and raise them as single parents.
In a world that insists that a woman has to be with a man in order to achieve her basically Anything other than making a good casserole and running a vacuum cleaner, Kaling and Markle are two living, breath-taking examples of that archaic ideal just not true. You can pivot your life at any age, do anything, and achieve your wildest dreams as a woman, single or married, with or without kids, at any age – and to put it in a bit more Spinster is the owner of the label for the rub.
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