Emily Ratajkowski is tackling her single girl era, one epigrammatic TikTok at a time.
The model and author, 31, recently shared a number of humorous videos that referenced her separation from husband Sebastian Baer-McClard weaved into the current threats under scrutiny from the male gaze. The two reportedly split in July following rumors of infidelity. Ratajkowski was recently seen moving out of their shared New York apartment.
TikTok ranges from shady posts about liking “ugly men” to exploratory treks through the nuances of cisgender relationships and patriarchy.
She discussed her fears about reproductive justice and media perceptions of abusers with a video on August 27, writing, “It’s getting too scary to be 2022 and a woman.”
A popular audio is used in the video where users say that they are not afraid of lions, tigers or bears, after which their real fear is revealed.
Ratajkowski’s fear involved a reversal of Roe vs. WadeA Judge Appeals to Harvey Weinstein, Shia LaBeouf’s “Redemption Tour” and Public Reaction Depp vs Heard Decision.
But the stream of Tiktok consciousness did not stop here. In one video, Ratajkowski sews up another producer’s TikTok, writing, “When he thinks he’s ten because he pulled you over but you like ugly men,” the audio was clipped to the camera. —sinking, “How can I say this in a friendly way, implying that she is attracted to “ugly” men. This prompted many fans to take a dig at Bear-McCard.
Their breakup sparked endless discourse about “ugly” men who cheat on their traditionally attractive partners and whether or not that played a role in one’s propensity for infidelity.
Ratajkowski did not directly specify who she was talking about in the video, instead writing “this is a joke for legal reasons” in the comments. Of course, that didn’t stop commenters from speculating and downright praising Ratajkowski for the shady post.
“Emily this is god level breakup behavior,” wrote one commenter.
“YESSSSSSS it’s okay, we were all wondering how he got you,” shared influencer Brittany Furlan.
In addition to beating the breakup blues with a little humor, Ratajkowski as a cisgender woman also talks about the role patriarchal structures play in the exploitation of dating and love.
She cobbled together another producer’s TikTok discussing the absence of love in cis relationships and added to the video the patriarchal implications of ownership in heteronormative coupling.
“I love this video because she’s making a point that bell hooks are made, which, under patriarchy, is like men getting women, dragging them, pulling them, which is what I’ve recently seen as a single. Sounds like the guy who’s thinking about dating and stuff, I’ve actually noticed with my conversations with and around my friends, it’s like ‘OK who’s going to get him’ instead of you. know, ‘This is a mutually reciprocal relationship where two people can potentially foster love.’ So yeah, that’s basically why we don’t have a lot of love in cis-hetero relationships,” she says.
A large part of Ratajkowski’s latest material is an extension of her now-famous perspective on her existing as a model and woman in a society that places such a great emphasis on power, form, modesty, and male approval.
In another TikTok, she explained the importance of John Berger’s inscription quote ways of seeing in his book, my bodyWhich delves into the complexities of objectification and empowerment through a series of essays.
“Okay, here’s my book. But I just wanted to read the epigraph because it applies to a lot of things I’m doing right now. Well, I’m not going to read the whole thing. But basically what that The saying is that we like to look at women. We give them a mirror to look at and assess themselves, then we call them vain. But this is where it gets good. ‘The real function of the mirror was otherwise. It was to make the woman conspired to regard herself first and foremost, aka above anything else, as a vision.’ I really love it. It’s the epigraph to my book. I love it so much,” she says.
She also dug into the male gaze and deeply internalized the misrepresentation of what can appear to the most vulnerable of women.
In a TikTok shared on September 6, she shared a video of psychotherapist Esther Perel speaking on a panel discussing female sexuality, highlighting the idea that women were taught to see sex as a performance for men. Is.
“This is very true and it’s because women have internalized the male gaze so much that when we’re having sex, we think about how hot or not we are,” she says. “So I love the tiktok I get all the time. I don’t know what your algorithm is, but mine is ‘Have you internalized the male gaze or are you gay?’ But yeah, this is the kind of madness that happens to women, we get so used to having sex, seeing women having sex and sexually abusing ourselves that we don’t want to have sex during sex. Thinking about it, for lack of a better way to put it.”
This point resonated with many users, who began to reflect on the idea in her comments.
One user wrote, “It almost bothers me, how much I have internalized their eyes, constantly imagining myself through their eyes, never seeing myself.”
“It’s so true! It’s such a shocking feeling about itself, but once it’s there… it can’t go away,” commented another.
Despite the puzzlement presented by some of her videos, Ratajkowski has been able to maintain the level of lightheartedness in her TikTok as well.
In one video, she used a popular sound that depicts the dilemma of seeking approval and recognition while at the same time not wanting to be felt.
“Yeah, no, I hate being perceived too. Yes, no I do. I hate being perceived. Wait guys look at this, what did you think?” The audio addresses the blurring lines between empowerment and desirability politics, said Ratajkowski, an apt descriptor.
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